projected self versus physical reality of self

in answer to a friends questioning about the version of self projected on internet dating sites versus the physical reality of self....... i think who we are inside or who we imagine ourselves to be becomes expressed differently in tangible physical reality...i've often thought how on a soul/spiritual level we project ourselves and interact so differently than when we become restricted by physical limitations of appearance and hormones and chemistry....i guess that's why writing/poetry was always so important to me...it allows us to communicate soul to soul on some deeper level - but like it or not we are driven and dictated by the physical bodies we were born into....i often wonder about that too - why some are living in perfect desireable bodies and others live their lives as beautiful souls trapped within not so desireable bodies - like some kind of test or alchemy that measures how beautiful the soul will remain when wrapped in the sort of outer wrapping that can be used and exploited for greed and personal gain - and how beautiful the soul can remain when constantly rejected and misunderstood based on outer appearance....there is this dream of love in all of us....and yet it seems only to be the birthright of the (societally defined) beautiful....and yet i believe we all have equal measures of particular emotions ie love - hate - sorrow - anger - etc - that have to find expression in some way....hence the writers and poets whose emotions are sublimated into their art/poetry....but we are ruled by those with precedence over such things who dictate that to be happy and loved you must be physically beautiful or perhaps rich or successful enough to buy some version of love.....internet dating sites understand this psychology....but i don't at all regret joining the site - i have connected with some of the quality people on there....also - there is an element of attracting like - i have found that the people i have formed some kind of friendship/connections with all mirror me in some way and i them - so it seems there is no getting away from that